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A Money Confession That Might Surprise You
Thamina Stoll
October 30, 2025
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“Thamina, you’re uncomfortable with sitting in stillness.”
That’s what my therapist told me earlier this week. And I haven’t been able to unhear it since.
Not because I’m bad at rest - I protect my calendar, I sleep 7.5-8 hours, I take solo trips and practice pilates.
But inside my head?
It’s never quiet.
There’s always more to do.
More to optimize. More to ask from myself, my career, my partner, my life.
It’s like my brain is constantly scanning for the next step, even when I don’t need to take one.
And if I’m not moving toward something… I start wondering if I’m falling behind.
I convince myself I’m being lazy. That I should be using this moment better.
But here’s the thing: I’ve already built so much of what I once dreamed about.
I got promoted 5 times in 7 years, working at one of the most innovative companies in the world that offers insane benefits.
I live in a luxury building in New York City and finally got my green card.
I get to travel frequently.
I have young, healthy, supportive parents.
I have an amazingly smart, kind and funny partner who deeply cares about me.
And I’ve barely allowed myself to feel it.
Half of the time I still believe I somehow need to blow up my life or make some drastic changes - such as moving to a sheep farm in Australia (anyone else? - ) just to get that adrenaline boost and keep myself busy.
I still need to internalize that stillness isn’t the absence of ambition.
It’s the presence of trust - in yourself, in your timing, in everything you’ve already created.
It’s being able to sit with your life as it is, without demanding more from it in every second.
It’s the mental discipline to not turn every quiet moment into a productivity hack.
I see this in so many high-achieving women, this underlying fear that pausing means falling behind.
But what if stillness was a strategy? What if being fully here was your edge?
This is what I’m working on now:
Not rewiring my ambition, but learning to carry it with more ease.
Not striving less, but grounding deeper.
Not living for what’s next, but letting myself actually live now.
That’s not weakness.
That’s wealth.
Have you been experiencing something similar? If so, how have you been navigating it? I’d love to hear your thoughts - just DM me.
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